Worried your friend shares too much on cam?
Video chatting feels private - but it isn’t.
Has your friend told you they video chat with people they’ve met online? Are you worried they are having cam sex?
Anything they do on video chat can be recorded and shared really easily. If they do something they wouldn’t want their family or friends to see it could be recorded and shared.
If your friend doesn’t know and trust the person on the other end, they could be putting themselves in real danger. They could find themselves being blackmailed.
How can I help my friend?
If your friend is being blackmailed because they've been videoed on cam or sent sexy pictures, they will probably be feeling trapped.
They might think there’s no escape. This is never true. There is help out there and you can help them find it.
Show them it’s never too late to get help.
Help them weigh up the pros and cons.
If they’re worried about getting support help them to think about the positives and negatives of telling someone about their problem.
Tell them about the lies people who abuse tell.
If someone is blackmailing your friend with pictures or videos they might be telling them lies to try to control them. Find out more about their lies here.
Talk to them about how they are feeling.
Let them know that all problems can be solved with support. Help them get support from an adult you trust or ChildLine.
Help them report to CEOP.
Whoever is threatening your friend is committing a serious crime. They should report it to CEOP. CEOP has dealt with loads of cases like this and will understand. They will support your friend. They will also find the person behind it so the police can arrest them.
Organisations who can help
CEOP helps young people who are being sexually abused or are worried that someone they’ve met is trying to abuse them.
If you’ve met someone online, or face to face, and they are putting you under pressure to have sex or making you feel uncomfortable you should report to CEOP.
This might be someone:
- Making you have sex when you donʼt want to
- Chatting about sex online
- Asking you to meet up face to face if youʼve only met them online
- Asking you to do sexual things on camera
- Asking for sexual pictures of you
- Making you feel worried, anxious or unsafe
If this is happening to you, or you’re worried that it might be, you can report this to CEOP.
Talk to someone
ChildLine is a free helpline for children and young people. You can contact ChildLine about anything. No problem is too big or too small. Whatever your worry, it's better out than in.
ChildLine is a private and confidential service. Confidential means not telling anyone else what you’ve said. This means that whatever you say stays between you and ChildLine.
They would only need to tell someone else if:
- You ask them to
- We believe your life or someone else’s life is in immediate danger
- You are being hurt by someone in a position of trust who has access to other children like a teacher or police officer
- You tell us that you are seriously harming another young person
Call them on 0800 1111. The number won’t appear on your phone bill.
You can also visit www.childline.org.uk to speak to a counsellor online.