Worried about your friend's access to porn?
If you’re worried that porn is having a negative effect on your friend’s life or their relationship there are things you can do to help.
- Try having a chat with them about it. Let them know you won't judge them and help them think through the pros and cons of their porn use for themselves.
- Talk them through the impact porn can have on people’s lives. Find out more here.
- Help them to stop watching porn if that is what they would like to do. Talk together about how they could do this and what you could do to help.
- Talk to an adult you trust about your worries.
If you are worried about your boyfriend or girlfriend’s porn use…
If your boyfriend or girlfriend’s porn use bothers you, it is OK to be bothered and it’s OK to talk about it.
Sometimes insecurities, worries and lack of confidence can get in the way of an honest conversation, but your boyfriend or girlfriend needs to know how you feel if they are going to make any changes you’d like them to.
Talk them through the impact porn can have on people’s lives and relationships. Find out more here
Talk to an adult or friend you trust about your worries.
Spend some time thinking about what you feel comfortable with in a relationship and stick to this. Everyone has their own comfort zone and if you don’t feel comfortable or safe then it’s not right.
If you’re worried about your porn use, or a friend’s there’s lots of advice and information out there.
Do you need to talk to someone about sex or relationships? Brook provides free and confidential sexual health services specifically for young people under 25.
Brook offer a confidential service. This means that they don’t talk about your what you’ve said to anyone outside Brook without your permission unless you are in serious danger.
The Ask Brook service provides sexual health information, support and signposting for all young people under 25 anywhere in the UK.
Contact Ask Brook by text and webchat (IM) from 9am - 3pm Monday to Friday.
Text Ask Brook on 07717 989 023 (standard SMS rates apply)
The Webchat service is available through their website at www.askbrook.org.uk.
Bish UK provides lots of advice and information about sex, relationships and porn.
Your Brain on Porn
Your Brain on Porn is mainly designed for adult men who want to get help for a pornography addiction, but you may find some of its tips useful. It also includes lots of videos on how pornography can shape young people’s brains and sexuality.