Q & A
I agreed to go naked for someone on webcam. They say they’ve taken a screenshot and will send it to my friends and family if I don’t go on cam again – what do I do?
Don’t let them contact you any more, and don’t listen to their threats. They’re committing a very serious crime if they’ve encouraged you to do something sexual online and are now threatening you.
Try and gather all the information you have on the people threatening you (chatlogs, online names etc.) and report this to CEOP. These problems can happen, and your family and friends will have heard how often bad people will try and use young people on the internet.
CEOP can help you get through any problems, and your report will help us track down the person and stop them from hurting someone else as well.
Someone keeps asking me to send them naked pictures. I want to be friends still, but I want them to stop asking – what can I say?
If it’s a friend you know very well they should understand that you’re not happy about doing this. If they keep asking anyway then maybe they aren’t as good a friend as you thought after all.
You can try and make the situation less awkward by sending something funny back instead. Download the Zipit app to get loads of funny photos you can send instead of sexy pictures.
If it’s someone you’ve never met face-to-face then it’s safer to ignore them or block them. If you’re worried about why they’re asking for images or they’re making you feel uncomfortable then you can report them to CEOP.
Find out more about how to stay in control of the pictures and videos you share here.
What is sexual abuse?
Sexual abuse is when a young person is pressured, forced or tricked in to any sexual activity with an adult or another young person.
Sexual abuse includes when:
- You’re being touched in a way you don’t like, without giving your permission or consent
- You’re being forced to have sex
- You’re forced to look at sexual picture or videos
- You’re made to watch someone do something sexual. This can include someone exposing themselves to you via webcam, in pictures or in person
- You’re made to do something sexual to yourself or to someone else that feels uncomfortable or wrong. This could be via a webcam or face-to-face
Sexual abuse is a crime. If someone is sexually abused it is NEVER their fault.
There are people out there who understand and who can help make it stop. If you’re worried about sexual abuse find out more information and where to get help here.
Am I in an abusive relationship?
Abuse in a relationship is when someone tries to control, intimidate or hurt their partner to take advantage of them and abuse them. The abuse can take many different forms, it can be physical, emotional or sexual.
Signs of abuse in a relationships can include: a partner telling you what you can and can’t wear; a partner making you feel guilty for spending time with your friends rather than them; a partner using threats or violence to control you; a partner forcing you to do sexual things with them or with other people; a partner saying what you can and can’t spend your money on.
Everyone has bad days but if your partner regularly makes you feel bad about yourself or you feel that you are always walking on eggshells around them, you could be in an abusive relationship. Abuse in a relationship is not okay and you don’t have to put up with it. You should talk to someone you trust, or speak to someone at ChildLine on 0800 1111 or Brook on 0808 802 1234. The This is Abuse site also has lots of advice about abuse in teen relationships, including a directory of confidential support services.
What is sexual exploitation?
Sexual exploitation is when someone takes advantage of you sexually, for their own benefit. They may threaten, bribe, show violence or humiliate you to try and gain control over you. They may tell you that they love you in order to get you to do sexual things with them or other people.
Learn more about sexual exploitation and how to spot the signs here.