Q & A

  • Who can I talk to if I think I’m in an abusive relationship?

    It is important that you get help if you feel you are in an abusive relationship. If you have someone you trust like a parent, teacher, youth worker or social worker tell them what’s going on. If not you can talk to a number of organisations which can help you including ChildLine on 0800 1111 or Brook on 0808 802 1234.

    Learn more about abuse in relationships here.

  • What is consent?

    Consent is someone giving permission or agreeing to something, after they have thought carefully about whether or not they want to do it. To be able to give your consent to sex you should be sure that it is your decision and not one you have been pressured to make. The law in Britain says that both people need to give their consent before sex or any physical closeness.

    The law also says that to consent to sex a person must be over 16 and have the ability to make informed decisions for themselves.

    It is always a crime to have sexual activity with somebody without their consent. If someone does not feel free to make a choice (e.g. because they were pressured or threatened) then they have not consented, even if they don’t say no.

  • What is emotional abuse?

    Emotional abuse in a relationship can involve embarrassing you or putting you down in private or in public. If your partner is jealous of you seeing other people or becomes angry when you want to spend time with your friends, this could be a sign of emotional abuse. They may try to control you by telling you what you can and can’t wear and say that you’re not allowed to see your family. They may also make you feel like you are walking on eggshells, for example, turning hot and cold or using threats to control you. These can all be signs of emotional abuse.

    Learn more about abuse in relationships here.

  • I use the same password on all the different sites I use. Could I be in trouble?

    You should always have different passwords on all your accounts – if someone breaks into one account they could try and break into more by trying a password they know that works.

    You should also choose a password which is difficult for somebody else to guess. For example, it’s a bad idea to use an easily guessable password such as ‘123456’, the name of your pet or ‘password’!

    Similarly, you shouldn’t use easily identifiable passwords such as your name. A strong password combination usually consists of a mixture of letters (capitals and lower case), numbers and symbols. To keep passwords secure you shouldn’t share them with anyone, even your best friend. It is also a good idea to use different passwords for each of your online accounts.

    Learn more about how to keep your information secure here.

  • Someone’s spreading rumours about me, but because the website is anonymous I don’t know who it is or how to stop it. What can I do?

    Firstly, don’t respond to the messages. Letting bullies know they’re bothering you might make them try even harder to upset you. Sometimes it’s okay to ignore people for the right reasons.

    Other things you can do:

    - Save screen shots and take notes of any names that could help you identify who the bully is, then delete the comments and block the bully if you have the option.

    - Report the comments if you can, or report the bully to the website.

    - Don’t use your real name and details if you’re on a site with mostly anonymous people.

    If you feel worried then you should talk to a teacher at school or a parent, carer or an adult that you trust and see if they can help.

    Find out more about cyberbullying and what to do if you are being cyberbullied here.